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Lenten Reflections: Soap Is To The Baby What Tears Are To The Soul

cross-lent-purple-drape-5I was supposed to go to Quebec City this weekend with some friends. They went; I stayed home. I had been having trouble sleeping, and Friday when it was time to go I realized I had forgotten to pack, and proceeded to break down in tears. I thought I could will myself through anything but when the prospect of packing a few clothes seemed too daunting, I knew something had to change.

That night I slept fairly well. Maybe it was acknowledging I am as human as the next person and require sleep in order to function. I am sure if Dante wrote his Divine Comedy now, graduate school would constitute its own level of hell. With separate sub-strata within the Greater Grad School Level of Hell distinguishing between masters and doctoral stress. But I digress…

There was a difference between knowing I was exhausted, and finally realizing something had to change. That outward bodily experience of acceptance and tears is similar to what happens during repentance. “Repentance” is derived from the Greek penthos, which means mourning. For me, the experience of truly mourning my sins is not merely an intellectual one – it takes place in my heart and is expressed in my body through tears. I know this is not something that only I experience, because “spiritual tradition teaches that whenever we experience repentance in our lives, especially as it directly relates with our relationship to God, it is often accompanied by an outpouring of tears.”(1) Rarely do I go to Mass and not notice someone surreptitiously wiping tears from their eyes.

Mourning our sins is not an end in itself but rather a means to an end: growing closer to God. Staying stuck in feeling bad about our sins is not the point; the point is to move on. But as we grow in self-knowledge, God allows us to see other areas of our lives that stand in the way. Again we repent and again we turn to Him, participating in a “transformative process, one that renews and re-establishes us in our loving God and others.”(2) Self-knowledge and repentance go together, and I picture this process as an upward spiral.

It hurts to acknowledge our sins and human limitations and crying indicates we are actually accepting them, as opposed to being in denial. In one of my favourite books, a psychiatrist who survived Auschwitz wrote that “tears bore witness that a man had the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.”(3) It takes courage to accept our human limitations, no matter what they are.

Tears of repentance wash away our sins and are God’s gift to us as consolation.(4) That is why we feel better after a good cry. Perhaps I was able to sleep that night because I no longer had a façade to keep up. Not just to my friends but more importantly, to myself. God touched my heart and my tears washed away my pride.

Maybe we should start a “Humans Anonymous” support group. “Hi, my name is Laura and I’m a human.” “Step One: we admitted we were powerless over our humanity.” Oh wait. We have that already… church. In that case, let me raise my glass to a holy Lent for all of us. May we see and acknowledge ourselves as we really are – the good, the bad and the ugly. May we get ourselves out of God’s way! Happy Lent!

Footnotes: 

1 Kyriaki Karidoyanes FitzGerald, ed., Encountering Women of Faith, 2nd ed. (Brookline, Massachusetts: Holy Cross Orthodox Press, 2009), 102.

2 Ibid., 101.

3 Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning, 5th ed. (Boston: Beacon Press, , pages 78

4 Kyriaki Karidoyanes FitxGerald, ed., Encountering Women of Faith, 2nd ed. (Brookline, Massachusetts: Holy Cross Orthodox Press, 2009), 103.

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Week 16 Announcements – Feb 10th – Feb 16th

Winter Coffeehouse

February 20 @7:30pm

It’s STILL that time of year, there will STILL be a Winter Coffeehouse, and we are STILL looking for ACTS! It is NOT too late to sign up! If you would like to perform, please contact Angie via email at angelique.empleo@mail.mcgill.ca. Your gifts are God-given; we’d love for you to share them with the community!


Newman Lent Retreat:

Saturday February 21 @ the Newman Centre – 10:30am to 4:00pm

For the first time ever, we will be holding a lent retreat here at the Newman Centre. It will be great to meet people to journey with over the 40 days to grow in faith together. It will be held on Saturday, February 21st from 10:30 until 3:30pm. You will receive some amazing tools from highly knowledgeable guest speakers to build your personal relationship with God. For more information please email faithstudiesmcgill@gmail.com.


Sandwiches For The Homeless

If you want a break from the lull and dull of school, or if you haven’t gotten out much due to mid-terms, I say why not let this be your chance to get out and do something for the community? We are having a Sandwiches for the Homeless next Saturday at the Newman Centre, and then proceeding to walks around downtown Montreal and we would very much love to have you join us! All the details are stated below, mark your calendars, and hope to see you there!

PS: We welcome donations of any food stuffs that you may want to bring for the lovelies we’re gonna visit. Just fill in this google doc and your set!
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1DTedxs_Rb-E4v6h3r9Nw5blmS_c4bDicYMTwIchNnDA/edit?usp=sharing


Theology Thursday: Carter v. Canada or Canada v. Carter: What’s at stake in the euthanasia decision?

Thursday, February 19th – 7:00 PM – Newman Centre

This Thursday at 7:00 pm in the main hall of the Newman Centre (3484 Peel), join McGill Professor Douglas Farrow (Kennedy State Chair for Catholic Studies) and special guest Dr. Margaret Somerville (the Director for the Centre of Medicine, Ethics, and Law) as we discuss what’s at stake in the most recent euthanasia decision.

Refreshments will be provided! Invite your friends!

Facebook event: https://www.facebook.com/events/357403431119391/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming&unit_ref=popular_with_friends


To Hell and Back – How ordinary people become terrorists and leave terrorism behind

A talk by: Jocelyn Bélanger (Psychology, UQAM)

 

Feb 18, 5:30pm


2015 Claude Ryan Lecture in Catholic Social thought

Breaking the silence about child sexual abuse: How to provide safer places for our children

Delphine Colin-Vezina, PhD

Director, McGill Centre for Research on Children & Families

Thursday February 12 @ 5:30pm @ The Newman Centre

A clinical psychologist and leading Canadian expert in cases of child sexual abuse, Dr. Collin-Vézina is Director of McGill’s Centre of Research on Children and Families and one of a handful of scholars who has helped to deepen our understanding of trends in child maltreatment, and to improve intervention for victims through protection agencies and healthcare centres around the world. Her ​2015 Claude Ryan Lecture will explore the problem of silence in the area of child sexual abuse and comment on the role adults can play in reversing this trend by creating safer environments into which children may grow.  For more info, visit www.newmancentre.org or call 514 398-4106.

Open to the public and free of charge. ​


Ash Wednesday Mass and Distribution of Ashes

Wednesday February 18 @ 4pm @ the Newman Centre main hall

Join us as we begin the Lenten season with the traditional distrubution of ashes. If you have friends who don’t normally go to Church but might be open to an invitation this is a good Mass to invite them too because you don’t have to be Catholic to receive ashes!!


Lenten Armchair Retreat – 6 weeks of one-on-one spiritual direction

LAST CALL – deadline to register is this Saturday February 14

The Ignatian Spirituality Centre of Montreal is once again pleased to offer students at the Newman Centre the Arm Chair Retreat. During the 6 weeks of lent, students are paired off with Jesuit trained spiritual directors from the Ignatian Centre for weekly one-on-one spiritual direction at times that fit your own schedule. Spiritual direction meetings normally take place at the Newman Centre, but could also take place at other locations depend on what is most convenient for directors and directees. For more information or to signup please contact our campus minister @ terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org. This retreat which mostly happens at your own time, begins with a group meeting on Sunday February 15 from 2pm to 4pm where we will receive an orientation and get paired off with our spiritual directors, and ends with a wrap-up meeting Sunday March 29 from 2pm to 4pm.


YOUCAT on Tap: No youcat this Friday

Youcat on Tap will return on Friday March 13


Sarboro Mission – 1 year mission program

Do you feel called to serve or be a presence to help make the world a better place, but don’t know where to get information? Are you interested in gaining valuable experience for cross-cultural employment? the one-year Mission program at Scarboro Missions is a way of introducing adults, who already have an interest in mission, to Scarboro Missions and to mission. The one-year missioners will go to countries in continents where Scarboro Missions has strongly established relationships and where there are active lay missioners and/or partners such as South America, Asia and Africa.”For more info check out their website: https://www.scarboromissions.ca/Lay_missioners/one-year.php or contact our campus minister terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org


CLM Mission 2015: COSTA RICA & EL SALVADOR

July 6 to July 19The Christian Life Movement (CLM) Mission trip is an opportunity for university aged young adults to deepen their faith through an experience of community and a participation in a social justice construction project in a developing country. This years CLM Canada Mission trip will be taking students to the slums of San Jose, Costa Rica, in Central America for two weeks in July. In addition, to the construction project, the mission trip will also include home visits for prayer and house blessings in the local community, and opportunities to do catechists with school children. CLM mission trips also include spiritual and intellectual formation. Participants will have ample opportunity for worship and prayer together including daily Holy Mass, Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament, Rosary, Evening Prayer, and large & small group discussion. We will also have opportunities for classes on topics such as: Human Anthropology; Evangelization; the Social Teachings of the Church; Vocation; and a theology of Reconciliation. Last but not least, CLM mission trips include cultural exploration. Participants will be immersed in Costa Rican culture, exploring it’s many unique qualities through cultural outings. We will also embark on a two day trip to El Salvador to explore the life of Archbishop Oscar Romero. For more info, or to register please visit: http://clmcanada.org/mission-2015/. and email our campus minister at terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org.


“Salvation for the Many?: Biblical and theological considerations in a pluralistic world” a Symposium

Friday February 13 @ 7pm – John Molson School of Business room MB 1.210 @ 1420 Guy st. (Corner de Maisonneuve)The Concordia University Department of Theological Studies, the Roman Catholic Archdioces of Montreal, and Christian Direction are co-sponsoring this symposium at Concordia. The key note speaker is Dr. Ralph Martin from the Sacred heart Major Seminary of the Archdiocese of Detroit. The evening lecture is titled “Salvation and the Scope of Divine Mercy”. This event is free of charge! for more information contact our campus minister @ terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org.


“My Neighbour’s Faith: visit to a Quaker meeting”

Thursday February 19 – from 5:30pm to 7pm @ the Newman CentreThe evening will include: an introduction, Quaker silent group meditation, and Q&A with snacks! Quakers meet in silence expecting the divine. During this time, members may feel moved to offer a simple spoken message that is inspired by this encounter. Registration is required for this event at: morsl@mcgill.ca. My Neighbour’s faith is a collaborative effort by the Concordia Multy-Faith Chaplaincy and the McGill Office of Religious and Spiritual Life. Visit www.fb/morsl or email morsl@mcgill.ca for other events and programs related to religious literacy, spiritual wellness, and various other faith communities on campus and around Montreal.

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Ash Wednesday

Join us for Mass and Distribution of Ashes on February 18th at 4:00pm in the Newman Centre (3484 rue Peel).

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Saint of the Day: St. Scholastica

Have you ever heard of Saint Scholastica? She was the twin sister of Saint Benedict of Nursia and is regarded as the foundress of Western female monasticism. She was born in central Italy in the year 480, and died of natural causes on February 10th, 543. As she lived pre-schism, she is venerated in both the Roman Catholic and Eastern Orthodox churches. Her feast day is February 10th.

If you’ve ever been to St. Patrick’s here in Montreal, you know there are mosaics of individual saints all around the basilica. There is a mosaic of Saint Scholastica on one of the pillars in the back, where she is depicted holding a red book and a crosier.

According to Benedictine tradition, Saint Scholastica founded a monastery near her brother’s in Monte Cassino, Italy. There is some historical debate as to whether this was a “real” monastery with a community of women having taken formal vows, or whether it was more like a “house monastery” with her and a few other consecrated women living on her family’s estate.

We don’t know that much about Saint Scholastica, though. The only source of information is from Saint Gregory the Great, who, in his Dialogues, recounts a meeting between her and Saint Benedict. Apparently, the brother and sister met once a year, with each leaving their respective monasteries. They talked about spiritual matters and encouraged one another in their Christian vocation. At the end of one of these meetings, Scholastica asked Benedict to stay longer. He said no, that he couldn’t be away from his monastery that long. She then bowed her head in prayer and soon after the weather turned from pleasant to thunder and rain. Travel back to his monastery was out of the question, so Benedict stayed the night with his sister and they continued their spiritual conversation.

HolyTwinsPrintIt turns out that Scholastica was hurt that her brother wasn’t listening to her, so she turned to God in prayer, since He always listens. That was how the weather changed and they got to spend more time together! Saint Gregory writes, “Is it not a thing to be marveled at, that a woman, who for a long time had not seen her brother, might do more in that instance than he could? She realized, according to the saying of St. John, “God is love”. Therefore, as is right, she who loved more, did more.” (http://www.osb.org/gen/scholastica.html)

Gender assumptions aside, this is true: she was able to do more because she loved more. I used to read Magnificat magazine, which, in the February 2011 edition, included this reflection: “Christ’s love for St. Scholastica and her love for Him spilled over into a lively and determined love for her brother, St. Benedict. Her love gave her prayer a power that startled even that holy man.” It all comes down to love. If we want to do more for God, we need to grow in our relationship with Him, because love is the only real source of power and strength we have.

I first heard of Saint Scholastica as a child, in a book called “The Holy Twins” (written by Kathleen Norris and illustrated by Tomie dePaola). The picture below is from this book. I love it because it shows the natural affection she and her brother had for each other. Saint Gregory writes that when Scholastica died, Benedict saw her soul “ascend into heaven in the likeness of a dove”, and then sent his monks to bring her corpse to his monastery so he could bury it in his own (future) grave. He concludes this story by writing, “By this means it fell out that, as their souls were always one in God while they lived, so their bodies continued together after their death.” Sometimes in hagiographies it seems like affection for others is depicted as wrong, but in this story, we see that it was exactly their relationship that helped each on their path to God. We need the love and support of others!

I’ll end with the collect for the day:

As we celebrate anew the Memorial of the Virgin Saint Scholastica, we pray, O Lord, that, following her example, we may serve you with pure love and happily receive what comes from loving you. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever.

(Photo from: http://tomiesblog.blogspot.ca/2012/11/limited-edition-holy-twins-print.html)

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Saint of the Day: St. Paul Miki and Companions

Saint_Paul_Miki_and_Companions_Nagasaki_Martyrs_CNA_World_Catholic_News_2_3_12[1]How far would you go in the proclaiming of your faith? Would you do so even though it meant death, pain, or suffering? In the comfort of our quiet North American lives, this is not a question we are often confronted with. Perhaps we can claim we ‘relate’ to an extent to what it’s like to suffer for one’s faith, as we see millions of our sisters and brothers in the middle east driven out of their homes, or killed because they are Nasrani ( the Arabic for Christian -followers of Jesus from Nazareth-). But even our efforts to relate with those who suffer for their faith, does not enable us to reproduce the experience these martyrs go through. And while no one should ever recommend that we follow the examples of the martyrs in our Church, I believe it’s important we at least try to channel the energy in their spiritual life that drove them to those moments of profound love for Jesus.

Today the Church remembers a group of these martyrs from Japan: Saints Paul Miki (a native Japanese Jesuit priest in formation), John of Goto, James Kisai and their companions. The story of their martyrdom was one deeply connected with the Jesuit ministry in the east. Thanks to the efforts of the Father of all missionary work, Saint Francis Xavier (1506-1552), and thanks to the efforts of his Jesuit brothers that came after his death, by 1587, there were around 200,000 Japanese who had entered the Church. Unfortunately, as is usually the norm in mission country, with growth, came tension with the existing political and religious order.

In 1593, when a group of Franciscans (who had a very different, more zealous style of evangelization than the Jesuits did) arrived to Japan from the Philippines, the tensions only escalated. As positive as their work may have been, their presence disturbed a delicate situation between the Church and Japanese authorities. This tension was exacerbated even further when a Spanish ship was seized off the Japanese coast, and found to be carrying artillery. The result was that paranoid, yet influential Japanese minister demanded the execution of 26 Catholics. The group was comprised of “three native Jesuits, six foreign Franciscans, and several lay Catholics including some children. Sentenced to die by crucifixion and lancing (piercing with lances), they were first marched 600 miles to the city of Nagasaki.”

Paul Miki is the one who is the most remembered because of his courageous efforts to evangelize to the mob who were mocking them, even while he hung on the cross:

“The only reason for my being killed is that I have taught the doctrine of Christ. I thank God it is for this reason that I die. I believe that I am telling the truth before I die. After Christ’s example, I forgive my persecutors. I do not hate them. I ask God to have pity on all, and I hope my blood will fall on my fellow men as a fruitful rain.”

He and his companions were in the end stabbed to death with lances on Feb. 5, 1597, at the site that became known as “Martyrs’ Hill” . We celebrate them today, since February 5th is the date we remember another great martyr in our Church, St Agatha. We are graced in this Church to have such a plethora of people that are absolutely heroic in the way they lived their faith in the world. Let us pray that we can learn to be as courageous and dedicated in the way we evangelize the world today. St Paul Miki and companions, pray for us.

By: Br. Dan (Source: Catholic News Agency)

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Week 15 Announcements – Feb 3rd – Feb 9th

Newman Lent Retreat:

For the first time ever, we will be holding a lent retreat here at the Newman Centre. It will be great to meet people to journey with over the 40 days to grow in faith together. It will be held on Saturday, February 21st from 10:30 until 3:30pm. You will receive some amazing tools from highly knowledgeable guest speakers to build your personal relationship with God. For more information please email faithstudiesmcgill@gmail.com.


Prayer-grams

Looking  to give some good intentions? Want to give that special someone something this Valentines Day? Maybe your friend needs a little “intercession”? The NCSS is having our annual prayer-grams again. Find the hearts by the round table with the lamp, head up to the chapel, pray for  the recipient, then toss them into the jar just outside the chapel. Wait. Prayer-grams will be distributed at the Valentines Day SNS.


Winter Coffeehouse

February 21 @7:30pm

It’s that time of year again – this coming February, the NCSS will be hosting our Winter Coffeehouse! And we are looking for ACTS! Can you sing? Can you dance? Can you pull a rabbit out of a hat? Whatever your talent is, we’d love to see you do it. If you’d like to sign up to perform, please contact Angie via email at angelique.empleo@mail.mcgill.ca. We can’t wait to see/hear/gape in awe at the wonderful gifts that God so graciously bestowed on you!


2015 Claude Ryan Lecture in Catholic Social thought

Breaking the silence about child sexual abuse: How to provide safer places for our children

Delphine Colin-Vezina, PhD

Director, McGill Centre for Research on Children & Families

Thursday February 12 @ 5:30pm @ The Newman Centre

A clinical psychologist and leading Canadian expert in cases of child sexual abuse, Dr. Collin-Vézina is Director of McGill’s Centre of Research on Children and Families and one of a handful of scholars who has helped to deepen our understanding of trends in child maltreatment, and to improve intervention for victims through protection agencies and healthcare centres around the world. Her ​2015 Claude Ryan Lecture will explore the problem of silence in the area of child sexual abuse and comment on the role adults can play in reversing this trend by creating safer environments into which children may grow.  For more info, visit www.newmancentre.org or call 514 398-4106.

Open to the public and free of charge. ​


Arm Chair Retreat – 6 weeks of one-on-one spiritual direction

Lent 2015

The Ignatian Spirituality Centre of Montreal is once again pleased to offer students at the Newman Centre the Arm Chair Retreat. During the 6 weeks of lent, students are paired off with Jesuit trained spiritual directors from the Ignatian Centre for weekly one-on-one spiritual direction at times that fit your own schedule. Spiritual direction meetings normally take place at the Newman Centre, but could also take place at other locations depend on what is most convenient for directors and directees. For more information or to signup please contact our campus minister @ terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org. This retreat which mostly happens at your own time, begins with a group meeting on Sunday February 15 from 2pm to 4pm where we will receive an orientation and get paired off with our spiritual directors, and ends with a wrap-up meeting Sunday March 29 from 2pm to 4pm.


YOUCAT on Tap: No youcat this Friday

Youcat on Tap will return on Friday February 13


How Others Worship by McGill Interfaith Student Council (MISC)

Friday Feb 6

This Friday students of various faith traditions will have the opportunity to experience how each other worships/prays. Here is a list of services/events and times. Everyone is welcome!

8:00 to 9:00 – Zen Practice @ Birks Chapel

11:00 to 12:30 – Sihk reading from the Guru Grant Sahib @ Newman Centre

1:00 to 2:30pm – Mulism Student Association – Jumma & service @ SSMU Ballroom

4:00 to 5:00pm – Catholic Mass & tea reception @ Newman Centre

7:30 to 9:30pm – Ghetto Shul – Shabbat service & dinner @ the Bagg Street Shul (3919 rue Clark, Montreal, qc, H2W1K2)

For more info, contact our campus minister @ terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org


Sarboro Mission – 1 year mission program

Do you feel called to serve or be a presence to help make the world a better place, but don’t know where to get information? Are you interested in gaining valuable experience for cross-cultural employment? the one-year Mission program at Scarboro Missions is a way of introducing adults, who already have an interest in mission, to Scarboro Missions and to mission. The one-year missioners will go to countries in continents where Scarboro Missions has strongly established relationships and where there are active lay missioners and/or partners such as South America, Asia and Africa.”For more info check out their website: https://www.scarboromissions.ca/Lay_missioners/one-year.php or contact our campus minister terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org


CLM Mission 2015: COSTA RICA & EL SALVADOR

July 6 to July 19

The Christian Life Movement (CLM) Mission trip is an opportunity for university aged young adults to deepen their faith through an experience of community and a participation in a social justice construction project in a developing country. This years CLM Canada Mission trip will be taking students to the slums of San Jose, Costa Rica, in Central America for two weeks in July. In addition, to the construction project, the mission trip will also include home visits for prayer and house blessings in the local community, and opportunities to do catechists with school children. CLM mission trips also include spiritual and intellectual formation. Participants will have ample opportunity for worship and prayer together including daily Holy Mass, Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament, Rosary, Evening Prayer, and large & small group discussion. We will also have opportunities for classes on topics such as: Human Anthropology; Evangelization; the Social Teachings of the Church; Vocation; and a theology of Reconciliation. Last but not least, CLM mission trips include cultural exploration. Participants will be immersed in Costa Rican culture, exploring it’s many unique qualities through cultural outings. We will also embark on a two day trip to El Salvador to explore the life of Archbishop Oscar Romero. For more info, or to register please visit: http://clmcanada.org/mission-2015/. and email our campus minister at terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org.


“Salvation for the Many?: Biblical and theological considerations in a pluralistic world” a Symposium

Friday February 13 @ 7pm – John Molson School of Business room MB 1.210 @ 1420 Guy st. (Corner de Maisonneuve)

The Concordia University Department of Theological Studies, the Roman Catholic Archdioces of Montreal, and Christian Direction are co-sponsoring this symposium at Concordia. The key note speaker is Dr. Ralph Martin from the Sacred heart Major Seminary of the Archdiocese of Detroit. The evening lecture is titled “Salvation and the Scope of Divine Mercy”. This event is free of charge! for more information contact our campus minister @ terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org.


“My Neighbour’s Faith: visit to a Quaker meeting”

Thursday February 19 – from 5:30pm to 7pm @ the Newman Centre

The evening will include: an introduction, Quaker silent group meditation, and Q&A with snacks! Quakers meet in silence expecting the divine. During this time, members may feel moved to offer a simple spoken message that is inspired by this encounter. Registration is required for this event at: morsl@mcgill.ca. My Neighbour’s faith is a collaborative effort by the Concordia Multy-Faith Chaplaincy and the McGill Office of Religious and Spiritual Life. Visit www.fb/morsl or email morsl@mcgill.ca for other events and programs related to religious literacy, spiritual wellness, and various other faith communities on campus and around Montreal.

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Witnessing to Your Family

The second in our series on Evangelization here at the NCSS Blog comes from a blogger who wishes to remain anonymous. Thank you for your contribution! 

We often hear the term “cradled Catholic” thrown around referring to those of us who have grown up with a practice of the Catholic faith as a part of our family life. It is a beautiful thing when parents of a newly baptized baby take seriously their responsibility to raise their children in the faith. These families are the ones that glow at mass – you know who I am talking about.

But the reality is, if we take an honest look at what’s going on in our generation, fewer and fewer Catholics are raised to love Jesus and the Church. This translates to fewer and fewer couples who allow God into their families and home life.

But something beautiful is happening in the midst of these trends – young people – you and I, are being invaded by grace. Many have encountered the love and mercy of God and have discovered that the Catholic Church as the true source of life and love. What a great mystery and miracle this is!

However, where does this leave us in our relationships with our families? For those of us who feel like the black sleep among their closest relatives, I have a message for you: you are not alone. There are many out there who have encountered Christ and desire to share how He has made “all things new” only to experience resistance, difficulty, arguments, misunderstandings, and great emotional heartache when encountering our families. This can be truly painful because it is in our families where we desire to be accepted and received most deeply.

Here are some tips (by no means exhaustive) to help you navigate these rocky waters:

  1. paradigm shift: We can often come from the perspective of “Why don’t they get it?” or “Why don’t they see the goodness of what I have decided to live for?” – the reality is that you chose something different than what was chosen for you. Your parents are confused because you aren’t walking in their footsteps and they are likely wondering why (with varying levels of frustration, expressed or not).  Feelings of humiliation, failure or shame come to the surface and these are not easy to deal with, even on a good day. We need to accept this difference, and be gentle with our families, while recognizing that God has a plan that we can hope in, even if we can’t see it in the immediate future.
  1. Don’t hide: The easiest thing do when a Sunday rolls around is to slip into the car and head to mass without telling anyone. My thought process: “Don’t tell anyone you are going to church = less likely to have an awkward conversation later.” Makes sense to me. Um, no. Don’t hide!If you are going to mass or just came from mass – or you had a great night at a Catholic event, just share a little about it! You might not get into the same depth you would with your Catholic friends, but it doesn’t hurt to show your joy! When we are living in the spirit, we magnify the Lord – so don’t let your fears stifle the Holy Spirit in you. It can be an opportunity that God uses to touch someone’s heart, often without you knowing it.
  1. Talk things through with a confidant:We all need support. Just like Frodo in the Lord of the Rings, we need to lean on others along the way. Ask for prayers from your friends when you are struggling, talk through the experiences you have with a faithful mentor or priest. Don’t let things fester in the darkened areas of your heart – but bring them to the light and let others help you make sense of it all!
  1. Let go and do what love requires. Let go of your expectations. Don’t grasp at a reality that has not presented itself, but do what love requires moment by moment. Wash those extra dishes without being asked, call home to tell your mom where you are, do something thoughtful for each family member just because, expecting nothing in return. This selfless charity requires great humility and trust – both of which we are invited into as Christian disciples – especially when it costs us our pride.
  1. Be easy on yourself. Just so you know: You will mess up. Why is it that the ugly sides of ourselves come out around our family?! They do, don’t they? And when they do, and you are not the angel you envisioned yourself to be, don’t beat yourself up. Admit your wrongs, ask the Holy Spirit for grace and help and try again. Apologize. Seek reconciliation and get in there again. It feels rocky sometimes, but it will get better as you continue seeking after the Lord’s guidance.
  1. Pray for your family: I once had a wise women tell me, “pray for your family every day – one Hail Mary each day.” And I’ll be honest, it’s not easy; it’s hard to pray into situations that are difficult and expect God to do seemingly impossible and great things. But God calls us to such faith!  Another thought is to entrust each of your family members to a particular saint – saints are prayer machines! They want nothing more than to pray for us here on earth – so get the saints working for you and your family!

And lastly, know that you have a Father in heaven that is making up for whatever you need in those areas of your heart that need it most. He is on the sidelines watching you play and can’t wait to debrief with you when you the whistle is blown at the end of the game. He is longing to have you call him “Abba, Father” and let yourself be adopted by him as a son or daughter. Let yourself be fathered by God.

Take some time to repeat and pray:

  • Father, father me.

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Week 15 Announcements – Jan 28th – Feb 3rd

Apartment Crawl

January 31 @6-8pm

Saturday Night Suppers is going mobile once again! On Saturday, January 31st, during the time that Saturday Night Suppers usually run, four members of our community will be opening up their homes and serving you. Join us in enjoying a four-course meal while simultaneously being able to explore the Newman community beyond the Centre. It’ll be an evening full of food, friendship, and fun – what a great way to spend your Saturday!


Catholic Students Week 2015

Rosary Walk

Monday, February 2 – Newman Centre – 2 PM

Meet at the Newman Centre and then join us on a walk around
campus as we pray the rosary. A great way to kick off the week with
prayer!

Movie Night

Tuesday, February 3 – Newman Centre (Main) – 7:30 PM

Join us for a free screening of the movie “The Rookie”: an incredible
true sure about a coach who discovers that it’s never too late for
dreams to come true. Enjoy free popcorn and refreshments.

Soup and Bagels Fundraiser

Wednesday, February 4 – Newman Centre (Main) – 12:30-2:00pm

Come for your favourite soup and bagel lunch for $3.50. All proceeds
from today’s lunch will support Saxum, a retreat centre in the Holy
Land. Special guests and Newmanites will share their experiences.

Woman’s Night & Men’s Night

Thursday, February 5 – Coach House & Newman Centre – 6:00pm

Join us in celebrating the Year for Consecrated Life with Women’s
and Men’s Nights, featuring special guests! Women will be at the
coach house, men in the Newman Centre.

Fireside Chat: Gender and Sexuality

Friday, February 6 – Newman Centre (Main) – 8:00pm

Have questions on the church’s teachings on gender and sexuality?
Join us for a cup of tea and a fireside chat with Drs. Richard Bernier
and Daniel Cere.

Night Fever

Saturday, February 7 – Notre-Dame-de-la-Salette (3535 Parc) – 7:00-9:00pm

Night Fever is a semesterly event that welcomes passers-by into the
church to light a candle, speak with a priest or go to confession, and
pray for their intentions. Need dinner before Night Fever? Join us for
an early Saturday Night Supper at 5:00pm at the Newman Centre.

Closing Mass and Reception

Sunday, February 8 – Newman Centre – 5:00pm

Celebrate the end of Catholic Students’ Week by joining us for Sunday
mass, followed by a special reception.


Saturday Night Suppers (SNS)

February 7th @ 5-7 PM

SNS this upcoming week will be at 5 PM as opposed to the usual 6 PM.


Winter Coffeehouse

February 21 @7:30pm

It’s that time of year again – this coming February, the NCSS will be hosting our Winter Coffeehouse! And we are looking for ACTS! Can you sing? Can you dance? Can you pull a rabbit out of a hat? Whatever your talent is, we’d love to see you do it. If you’d like to sign up to perform, please contact Angie via email at angelique.empleo@mail.mcgill.ca. We can’t wait to see/hear/gape in awe at the wonderful gifts that God so graciously bestowed on you!


The Year of Consecrated Life

Did you know that it’s the Year for Consecrated Life? Pope Francis dedicated this year to raising awareness and celebrating consecrated life in the Church! (FYI Consecrated = sisters, brothers, lay consecrated etc.)

At Newman, we are preparing prayer indicators for some of the consecrated people here in Montreal, as a way to thank them for their years of service and their YES to living this vocation! Drop by the Newman Centre and offer an hour of studies, a decade of the rosary, an Our Father etc. for some of these awesome men and women and write them a little note with the supplies provided!


Arm Chair Retreat – 6 weeks of one-on-one spiritual direction

Lent 2015

The Ignatian Spirituality Centre of Montreal is once again pleased to offer students at the Newman Centre the Arm Chair Retreat. During the 6 weeks of lent, students are paired off with Jesuit trained spiritual directors from the Ignatian Centre for weekly one-on-one spiritual direction at times that fit your own schedule. Spiritual direction meetings normally take place at the Newman Centre, but could also take place at other locations depend on what is most convenient for directors and directees. For more information or to signup please contact our campus minister @ terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org. This retreat which mostly happens at your own time, begins with a group meeting on Sunday February 15 from 2pm to 4pm where we will receive an orientation and get paired off with our spiritual directors, and ends with a wrap-up meeting Sunday March 29 from 2pm to 4pm.


YOUCAT on Tap: Happiness & Ethics

Friday Jan 30 @ 5pm

The Christian understanding of freedom, is that we are most free when we are able to discipline our desires to make the achievement of the good possible and eventually effortless. The Church recommends this disciples not to control or manipulate us, but rather because she recognizes in the teachings of Jesus, that the orientation of our desires towards the good is necessary in order to experiences our beatitudes, or joy in regular people language. This Friday @ YOUCAT on Tap, we will continue our exploration of Christian ethics by addressing the question: “What truely makes us happy?”. Hot Chocolate, beer, and pizza will be served at 5pm and our discussions will start at 5:30pm


Proclaiming Justice with Integrity: Living Global Connections on Campus (conference)

Jan 30 to Feb 1

A travel subsidy is available upon request

This conference is intended for university students who are interested in learning how to better encourage and support social justice and service initiatives on campus. This conference is organized by the Canadian Catholic Campus Ministry (CCCM) and the Canadian Catholic Students Association (CCSA). Registration fee is $150 with accomidations, $90 for communters. A travel subsidy is available upon request from the CCCM. Registration deadline is Friday Jan 23. For more info check out this website: http://www.cccm.ca/proclaim-justice-with-integrity/ or contact our campus minister at terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org


Scarboro Mission – 1 year mission program

Do you feel called to serve or be a presence to help make the world a better place, but don’t know where to get information? Are you interested in gaining valuable experience for cross-cultural employment? the one-year Mission program at Scarboro Missions is a way of introducing adults, who already have an interest in mission, to Scarboro Missions and to mission. The one-year missioners will go to countries in continents where Scarboro Missions has strongly established relationships and where there are active lay missioners and/or partners such as South America, Asia and Africa.”For more info check out their website: https://www.scarboromissions.ca/Lay_missioners/one-year.php or contact our campus minister terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org


CLM Mission 2015: COSTA RICA & EL SALVADOR

July 6 to July 19

The Christian Life Movement (CLM) Mission trip is an opportunity for university aged young adults to deepen their faith through an experience of community and a participation in a social justice construction project in a developing country. This years CLM Canada Mission trip will be taking students to the slums of San Jose, Costa Rica, in Central America for two weeks in July. In addition, to the construction project, the mission trip will also include home visits for prayer and house blessings in the local community, and opportunities to do catechists with school children. CLM mission trips also include spiritual and intellectual formation. Participants will have ample opportunity for worship and prayer together including daily Holy Mass, Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament, Rosary, Evening Prayer, and large & small group discussion. We will also have opportunities for classes on topics such as: Human Anthropology; Evangelization; the Social Teachings of the Church; Vocation; and a theology of Reconciliation. Last but not least, CLM mission trips include cultural exploration. Participants will be immersed in Costa Rican culture, exploring it’s many unique qualities through cultural outings. We will also embarck on a two day trip to El Salvador to explore the life of Archbishop Oscar Romero. For more info, or to register please visit: http://clmcanada.org/mission-2015/. and email our campus minister at terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org.


“Salvation for the Many?: Biblical and theological considerations in a pluralistic world” a Symposium

Friday February 13 @ 7pm

John Molson School of Business room MB 1.210 @ 1420 Guy st. (Corner de Maisonneuve)

The Concordia University Department of Theological Studies, the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Montreal, and Christian Direction are co-sponsoring this symposium at Concordia. The key note speaker is Dr. Ralph Martin from the Sacred heart Major Seminary of the Archdiocese of Detroit. The evening lecture is titled “Salvation and the Scope of Divine Mercy”. This event is free of charge! for more information contact our campus minister @ terrel.joseph@newmancentre.org.


“My Neighbour’s Faith: visit to a Quaker meeting”

Thursday February 19 – from 5:30pm to 7pm @ the Newman Centre

The evening will include: an introduction, Quaker silent group meditation, and Q&A with snacks! Quakers meet in silence expecting the divine. During this time, members may feel moved to offer a simple spoken message that is inspired by this encounter. Registration is required for this event at: morsl@mcgill.ca. My Neighbour’s faith is a collaborative effort by the Concordia Multy-Faith Chaplaincy and the McGill Office of Religious and Spiritual Life. Visit www.fb/morsl or email morsl@mcgill.ca for other events and programs related to religious literacy, spiritual wellness, and various other faith communities on campus and around Montreal

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Catholic Students Week 2015

Catholic Students’ Week 2015 will include a line-up of exciting events and opportunities to engage with your faith on campus!

Listing of events:

 MONDAY (February 2nd)

Rosary Walk

Meet at the Newman Centre • 2:00pm

Meet at the Newman Centre and then join us on a walk around campus as we pray the rosary. A great way to kick off the week with prayer!

 TUESDAY (February 3rd)

Movie Night

Newman Centre Main Hall• 7:30pm

Join us for a free screening of the movie “The Rookie”: an incredible true story about a coach who discovers that it’s never too late for dreams to come true. Enjoy free popcorn and refreshments.

 WEDNESDAY (February 4th)

Soup and Bagels Fundraiser

Newman Centre Main Hall• 12:30-2:00pm

Come for your favourite soup and bagel lunch for $3.50. All proceeds from today’s lunch will support Saxum, a retreat centre in the Holy Land. Special guests and Newmanites will share their experiences.

 THURSDAY (February 5th)

Women’s Night & Men’s Night

Coach House & Newman Centre • 6:00pm

Join us in celebrating the Year for Consecrated Life with Women’s and Men’s Nights, featuring special guests! Women will be at the coach house, men in the Newman Centre.

 FRIDAY (February 6th)

Fireside Chat: Gender and Sexuality

Newman Centre Main Hall • 8:00pm

Have questions on the church’s teachings on gender and sexuality? Join us for a cup of tea and a fireside chat with Drs. Richard Bernier and Daniel Cere.

 SATURDAY (February 7th)

Night Fever

Notre-Dame-de-la-Salette (3535 Parc)• 7:00-9:00pm

Night Fever is a semesterly event that welcomes passers-by into the church to light a candle, speak with a priest or go to confession, and pray for their intentions. Need dinner before Night Fever? Join us for an early Saturday Night Supper at 5:00pm at the Newman Centre.

 SUNDAY (February 8th)

Closing Mass and Reception

Newman Centre • 5:00pm

Celebrate the end of Catholic Students’ Week by joining us for Sunday mass, followed by a special reception.

 

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Do Catholics Believe in Predestination?

Blog submission from Richard Bernier for NCSS

Do Catholics believe in predestination? And if so, does that mean God loves human beings “unequally”?

These are heavy questions, for if the answer to them is “yes” or even “maybe,” it may leave us wondering where we sit on the spectrum of God’s love and on the spectrum of salvation. That kind of uncertainty certainly doesn’t feel like “good news”, which is what Jesus said He came to announce (see, for example, Mark 1:14 – εὐαγγέλιον means “good news”, and when we translate it “gospel” we are just using a fine old-timey English word that means “good news”). Where’s the good news in wondering if God loves me more or less, wondering if I am predestined or not?

First things first. Spoiler alert: None of us is predestined to be lost. Though I am giving away my punchline, this is not the sort of worry that Christ’s Church is in the business of sowing; it is the worry that drove poor William Cowper mad, and who knows how many other lesser-known but no less God-loved souls besides.

No human being who has ever been created was created for damnation, created with no possible fate except to be lost. Not Judas, not Mao, not me, not you, not the guy who invented spray cheese, none of us was created with the inexorable fate or destiny of being lost. “God our Saviour… desires all [people] to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth” (I Timothy 2:4, RSV). The Catechism of the Catholic Church, shortly after using the word “predestination” (more on that later!), cites and makes its own the blunt affirmation of the ninth-century local Council of Quiercy:

The Church, following the apostles, teaches that Christ died for all [people] without exception: “There is not, never has been, and never will be a single human being for whom Christ did not suffer” (para. 605).

In the richest sense of the wry and threadbare phrase, there is hope for us all. Why is there hope for us all? Because our Lord Jesus Christ became incarnate, and lived, and died, and rose again for every person. He came to destroy death for every one of us. He came to conquer sin and the enemy of our souls, he was made flesh and dwelt among us, so that we might all “have life, and have it abundantly” (John 10:10). God’s love for us is not a grudging concession; it is, rather, what God does because He is God. Bonum est diffusivum sui, St. Thomas Aquinas wrote (Summa theologiae, I, q. 5, a. 4): the good is diffusive of itself. The cosmos exists, being is, because God in His Godly love has created this immense and magnificent cosmos in a diffusion of His Godly goodness. The Incarnation makes communion with the Holy Trinity – eternal life, to call it by another name – a possibility for every soul, from the newly-conceived zygote or embryo whose own mother is as yet unaware of his or her existence, to Jean Vanier or St Edith Stein, to the most heinous and far-gone villain you can imagine. A possibility, I say, not a certainty: we are not inexorably predestined to damnation, but we are not even inexorably predestined to salvation either. Salvation is a possibility for all of us because God loves us all, and Christ lived and died and rose for us all; perdition is a possibility for most of us, because most of us are free. (The Church baptizes babies and the profoundly disabled because they too are called to the eternal life that begins at Baptism, but they are not free at the present time, they are not in any position to reject God – and therefore they are in no danger of perdition).

So it really makes no sense to think of God’s love for creation or for humanity or (more precisely) for each human being as “equal” or “unequal”. Love is not quantifiable, so what does “equal” love even mean? Yes, it is part of the human condition to have much more affection for some people than for others; even a parent or teacher will have a soft spot for this or that child, a secret (or even not-so-secret) warmth for one more than for another. The Incarnate God, Jesus Christ, in His humanity, was no exception to this very human trait: He had a soft spot for the disciple John (see John 13:23), and looked “with love” on the rich young man in his confusion and struggle (Mark 10:21). This asymmetry of affection is not the same as loving unequally: a good dad who secretly and quite naturally has a soft spot for one of his children in particular still genuinely wants and wills what is best for all of his children. In that sense, love is not measured primarily by the feelings associated with it but by the decisions it motivates, and a good mum or dad will act for the genuine good of all his or her children. God is not subject to the vagaries of human changes of affection; He is not petty, or cold, or resentful, so we need not fear any of the fickleness or whim that can make human love treacherous or unpredictable. By the only measure that matters – the measure of will – God’s love for each of us is beyond quantifying. Does God want eternal life for me? Yes. Does He want eternal life for you? Yes. Does He want it for everyone? Yes. Welcome to the club, where all are “equally” loved beyond measure – literally beyond measure, beyond any yardstick of equality or inequality that could possibly matter. The effects of God’s love are as different as human beings are different, I suppose, and we won’t grasp the whole drama of human and salvation history until the final fulfilment of things; but in the meantime, “equality” or “inequality” of God’s love is a meaningless measure.

God loves us all in the Godly way of loving, which is beyond human comprehension; and He wills that we should all have eternal life, pending our free acceptance of that unmerited gift. The Catechism of the Catholic Church, echoing I Timothy 2:4, speaks of the “universal saving will of God” (para. 1256). Every day, each of us is the recipient of countless gifts that vary widely from person to person – health, insight, friendship, strength, cheerfulness, opportunities, and so forth – that the Catholic tradition thinks of as “created graces”. A “grace” is simply an unmerited gift, and we all receive created graces by the sheer fact of existing. I have received much more than some, and less than others; but without wasting time on comparing my lot with anyone else’s, I have plenty to be grateful for, starting with the startling fact of my very existence. Besides these created graces, however, the Catholic tradition also speaks of uncreated grace, also called sanctifying or habitual grace, which is really the gift of God Himself: communion, friendship with the Holy Trinity, the gift of God’s presence and action in my being, inaugurated at Baptism and Confirmation, healed in Confession, and nourished and renewed by His real presence in the holy Eucharist. Eternal life consists of this uncreated grace, this communion with God, extended beyond death and the ravages of time, into the resurrected body to which we may all look forward.

What, then, of predestination? In my view, it is (with all due respect to the distinguished theologians who have used the term) a red herring. The only version of predestination that is compatible with the Catholic faith is so much unlike what we naturally understand “predestination” to mean that I think it would be much better not to use the term at all. Right off the bat, the Catholic faith rejects any notion that anyone is “destined” to be damned. That notion of predestination is, to my mind, frankly monstrous. So if we use the word “predestined”, we have to exclude any notion that anyone is “destined” to be lost; but that idea merely seems like the most logical flip-side of the claim that some people are “destined” to be saved. It begins to look like the only version of being “pre-destined” that is compatible with the Catholic faith must exclude any notion of being “destined” at all. It’s as if I chose to describe a certain bird as a mammal; “But wait!” you object; “doesn’t a mammal by definition have mammary glands? Does this bird have mammary glands?”. “No,” I answer cleverly, “it does not. It is a mammal in the non-mammalian sense”. Right. Perhaps another word would be better, no?

So where does this Catholic use of the term “pre-destination” come from? It comes, in my view, from a classic and vexing problem in Christian philosophy (and even theistic philosophy generally): if God knows what I am going to do, how am I free to do differently? If God knows today that tomorrow I will choose the soup over the salad, then it seems like I am not really free to choose the salad. Thus (the puzzle continues) if God knows the future, and therefore the future cannot be otherwise, then He must know if someone is saved or lost; but someone who is saved is only saved by the grace of God, which is unmerited; therefore God must have willed to give that person the necessary grace from all eternity, which may be true enough. By extension, however, it has been argued – quite wrongly, I think – that grace is wasted on a person whom God knows will reject it, so perhaps He doesn’t offer it, thus sparing the person the tragedy of digging himself an even deeper hole.

I have very little patience with such logical contortions. There is an immense literature on the problems of God’s knowledge of the future, on freedom, on the distinction between “God predicting the future with high accuracy” versus “knowing it as a present fact because He is outside time”; I will not attempt to summarize the issues here, largely because I have a hunch that they are mostly irrelevant and unsolvable. What does it mean for God to perceive as a present fact that which is, for me, merely a future possibility ? How does God perceive in eternity (which encompasses the present and the future) a future that does not yet exist, at least as far as I can see? To be frank, I don’t even begin to understand what it means to be “outside time”. Without intending any irreverence, I am tempted to observe this: I grew up with cats, and I am very fond of them, but I have not the faintest idea of how cats perceive the world and time; so how can I possibly expect to understand how God interacts with time? If I cannot understand the feline mind, then understanding the divine mind is definitely above my pay grade. This is not meant to be flippant, but to point out that grasping even human knowledge, grasping even animal knowledge, is a longstanding and thorny puzzle for the philosophical discipline of epistemology; we ought to be exceedingly hesitant to make sweeping claims about what God’s knowledge is like, especially if scurrying down that rabbit hole means losing sight of far more fundamental and certain realities, such as the goodness of God, and the foundation of our hope.

Instead, the Scriptures and the Catholic faith, while acknowledging the troubling mystery of sin and rebellion, largely consign “predestination” in most senses to the dustbin, because they clearly and vigorously affirm these far more important pieces of good news instead:

  • God definitely loves you (no matter who you are) and wants you to be in communion with Him for eternity; in a word, He wants you to be saved.
  • Through the life, death and resurrection of Christ, and the sacraments, and the free work of the Holy Spirit, you (no matter who you are) have available to you everything you need to be saved – simply because God loves you beyond measure. You have no need (or even any possibility) to try to earn it.
  • The only thing that can thwart God’s plan for your salvation is the freedom He Himself gave you – for you are free to sin and to reject eternal life. Even if you have done so, you still have the chance to return to Him; but if you finally, ultimatelyresolve to reject Him, He will not force you to accept Him. However, there is nothing forcing you to reject Him, so entrust yourself to His grace each day and be filled with hope.